If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not… – James 1:5

If you help a friend who is in debt, and wants to borrow money, you say, “Remember, I do not like it, you ought not to be in such a state.” Your brother wants some aid; you have helped him many times, and will again, but still, you upbraid him and tell him he is very imprudent; he ought not to get into these messes; he ought to manage his business better.” If you do not tell him so with the mouth, you look at him, and he thinks to himself, “It’s very kind of him to give me the help, but really it is very humiliating to me to have to ask him because I get so severe a lesson.” I suppose we do right to upbraid. I have no doubt we do so with good motives. But God never does upbraid seeking souls. He giveth liberally and does not dim the lustre of His grace by harsh rebukes. He does not say. “Ah! you sinner, how came you to commit such sin; I will forgive you, but —–.” The Father does not talk thus to the returning prodigal. (Luke 15:11-32) One would have supposed that when the prodigal came back, the father would have said, “Well, dear boy, you are forgiven, but never let me see you do that again. How wrong of you to take that portion of my goods and spend it in that way! I shall never be so well off as before; you have wasted half my living; and now think where you have been: what a dishonour you have cast upon your father’s name and character through wasting your living with harlots. I forgive: I cannot forget.” My brethren, it was not so! The prodigal remembered his sins, but his father forgot them all, and exclaimed with joy, “This my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found.” O soul, if thou didst but know the heart of the Saviour, thou wouldst not tarry in sin. If thou couldst but know the overflowing love of the divine Father, thou wouldst not linger in unbelief. “Teach me, O God, to trust Thy dear Son this day.” ~ C.H. Spurgeon

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